Regular reminder that being an asshole is not a symptom of any form of neurodivergence. (You can replace “neurodivergent” with depressed, anxious, bipolar, etc. and the diagram works equally well)

ETA: social faux pas, awkwardness, and genuine symptoms of neurodivergence don’t make you an asshole. I shouldn’t have to say this? An “asshole” is someone who enacts a pattern of abusive, controlling, harassing, and/or harmful behavior with no remorse or concern for how other people are affected.

  • ThotIWasSomebody@lemmy.world
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    20 days ago

    Neurodivergent people: Trying their best to fit into society

    You: Fuck those assholes.

    As someone who is neurodivergent and operates at an engineering level, when I’m under pressure I can sometimes be an asshole unintentionally. I try my best to recognize when I do this and apologize when I can. It’s not something I can help. It’s impulsive which means it’s hard to control.

    Here you are telling everyone that I am not deserving of compassion or understanding and should be written off as an asshole.

    Do you know what it’s like being neurodivergent? How people treat you when they find out? I now have to be on my best behavior at all times or I could get labeled an asshole and therefore deserve nothing according to you.

    Sometimes mental illness is like having a stab wound in your gut and you have to act like everything is fine. It’s not always possible in all situations.

    To say this post lacks awareness is an understatement.

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      19 days ago

      Everyone is trying their best, even neurotypicals.

      Doesn’t give you a free pass.

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      19 days ago

      Neurodivergence is not metal illness. You can not “cure” what is not broken. Trying to do so is what causes serious childhood trama. Neurodivergence is tied to communication differences and a differences in how the brain works.

      For more information look up the double empathy problem.

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      20 days ago

      Man I got NPD and even I would find it weird for people to like me just because they know I have NPD like you don’t gonna deal with the shit, if they can’t help being assholes then step it up

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        20 days ago

        Sorry but I don’t understand what you are saying with your first point. Is your second point literally “you need to step up your mental illness game?”