The closest word I can think of is a sycophant but that’s too strong word and not exactly what I’m looking for. The word I’m thinking of has negative connotations and it’s for someone who is friends with different groups but only at a superficial level and isn’t necessarily honest about who all they’re friends with. This person would be seen as untrustworthy.

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    9 months ago

    I’ve had friends that were friends with ex-cons, etc.

    you do you but I would definitely want to know if my friends were close with people who’d been in prison. If I worked in a field where they do background checks i would absolutely need to know if my friends were friends with those in prison. There’s a difference between dictating who people are friends with and knowing who people you give information to are close with.

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      9 months ago

      Every where does background checks, these days. In any case we don’t really care about your friends; and outside of ts/sci type clearances, nobody runs checks that deep (or even has the ability to- you need to provide close contacts for them to run a check)

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        9 months ago

        I live in Asia, if you tell the wrong person you are a democracy supporter you can get arrested or on a watch list

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          Surveillance states need not apply, but they’re still running checks for employment basically everywhere.

          In any case, political crimes (“democracy supporter”) are just more justification to not care, imo.

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            9 months ago

            In any case, political crimes (“democracy supporter”) are just more justification to not care, imo.

            you are saying you want people to not care about who they share information with when they live under a state that will arrest you for many more reasons than someone in the west would expect?