What are the things you maybe encountered or are generally common that turn you off a lot?

Can share my story as an example. I’m very much a committed monogamous guy, and, for second relationships in a row (fourth total), the girl offers me a condom from an open pack.

They do not use them for their stuff, they literally just kept them for like a year from previous relationships (to which both girls admitted), which is not only a questionable approach to storing condoms (please do not store them in an open box in a random place), but also a giant turn off for me, almost like using sex toys from previous partner.

What are such things in your life? Maybe something that is generally accepted as normal, but makes you uncomfortable? Would love to hear stories from all sides.

  • Pollux@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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    5 months ago

    That’s my point - those are not “unexpected hook-ups” (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.

    Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.

    Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.

    • Kuragi2@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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      5 months ago

      So if she had been out of a relationship for, say, a year, and had bought a box at the start of the time, used half of them on different partners, and then used one with you it’d have been fine? At least from the condom perspective, never mind that she has casual sexual encounters and that’s never cool. Good luck on your gymnastics journey.