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  • With this brain, it’s not about the destination, it’s the journey, and as soon as you do get to the destination you will find an emptiness that can only be filled by starting a new journey.

    If you’re really lucky, an activity you find fulfilling will be neurotypically amicable, and maybe even profitable, but you should not expect that.

    Thank you, this was very helpful. I can definitely see myself in that video.

    I think for me the latter is the case with the scrolling. I’d like to be a person who, eg., plays with Lego for 1 hour, spends the next hour painting, then decides to go and fix his bike, then listens to music for a bit, etc… That’s how I picture free time well spent. The problem is that once engulfed in any of the above activities, my brain never produces the impulse to stop and move on to the next. But the bigger problem is that I usually can’t even remember the options for what there is to do in the first place. A hobby that I genuinely enjoy, stored in one of my drawers might as well not exist until I rediscover it while looking for something else, and in that case it’s an unwanted distraction that throws me off task (at times when I need to do something and am not able tonjust go with the flow). I forget about it until I see it, which I guess explains why I can usually think of nothing to do but scrolling.

    That’s how powerless my attention is in the face of my surroundings. I guess what I’m saying is that I like my monotropism, but currently it’s like a wild animal and I want to learn to direct it.



  • The thing is, I don’t feel depressed (I have for short periods in my life so I know when I do). And whenever there’s school/a social event I go to it and I’m happy. I only get into this loop at weekends when there’s nothing to do. I could solve this by getting a job at the weekends (ie. again getting someone to structure my time for me). But the problem would persist that I’m unable to structure my free time due to executive dysfunction.