Exactly my dilemma
Even for the government you need apps nowadays. Yes you can try doing things in person but wait times aren’t reasonable. I’ve been trying to get a dumb phone for myself but still find I need a smartphone for specific apps a couple of times a month…
It’s ok for him to have poor mental health, but he should’ve said something rather than ghost you.
I would not get back together with him. At least not until he deals with his issues. But I do think he just wants the “safety” of having you there, and doesn’t actually respect you enough for a healthy relationship