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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • To answer your question while ignoring your dishonesty, bias and ulterior motives:

    I would be exactly the same level of annoyed. I have a distrust for any government especially when they play war or when they threaten others.

    That said, some governments have proven to be more straightforward and predictable than others, and I definitely prefer those. That doesn’t mean I’m gonna fall in love with one soon, these things only lead to authorianism and I think we can agree between Hitler and Mussolini that’s not an aspiring state to live in.

    I would love to have a nuanced conversation, because as someone from Europe, I do have a very nuanced view on all of this and I feel bad for the civilians who get caught in the crossfire of these conflicts, but unfortunately you are basically killing any platform where these nuanced conversations are possible when you’re trying to strengthen your position by using rhetorical questions.

    There’s no winners in discussions, and they are only productive if everyone is there to speak, listen, and learn. And that way I can understand why the hell you are doing what you’re doing and maybe respect you a bit, while you understand the same about and stop trying to “catch” other people in something. Because that’s not what these communities are for and you are being an asshole.








  • Echoing the rest of the comments here: as soon as he knew you were 13, for him to continue dating you is fucked up.

    Also for him to blame you for making him date you is absolutely bizarre and stupid. HE decides whom to date.

    And now to answer your question: I can only assume he doesn’t feel sorry. I could believe he might feel guilty but that’s because he realizes how fucked up the whole thing is. I can’t say for sure, and I don’t think he really tries to reflect, otherwise he wouldn’t even have gone that far.






  • Sounds like you’re going through a lot.

    First off,what other have told you is the best basic advice. There’s nothing you can do and you have to assume she won’t change her mind. You also said you are 23 and you feel like you are being childish. That’s absolutely not true, if someone broke up at 30 or 40 or 50 or whatever with a long time friend it would be just as rough. This situation is hard, and there’s no learning unfortunately and no preparation, it just sucks.

    And that is what I would say as well: it’s fucked up. It sucks. It’s fine to feel betrayed and sad and angry and lonely. It’s very fair to feel that way, because you lost something important. It’s ok to not feel ok and it’s normal to be so moved by something so hard.

    Maybe there’s something to say for changing your routine a bit. Finding other friends circles that she is not involved in, trying new hobbies and everything. That way you have something new to think about and other people to talk to - this might help with her being around parties every now and again.

    Also make sure you take care of yourself, start building up a new routine.

    It could be beneficial to talk to her when your feelings towards her are not as strong anymore, but it will always be awkward and there’s nothing to expect from it. It will just be a conversation and who knows where it goes.

    These are all steps that can help you move on, but of course there is no handbook for breakups so this could look very different for everyone.

    Although I haven’t been in your situation it sounds really rough and I’m sorry you have to go through this. I’m sure you’ll find someone else who loves you and will stick around.