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Cake day: December 1st, 2020

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  • Just idea that they expect growth where there is none is strange. This business are at the limit and have no way to grow faster than economic situation of many people around the world gets better.

    Sad part is fir them it is better to destroy service trying to increase growth in meaningless ways, than to just find a way to keep the business that is working.

    Idea of infinite growth is ruining us.


  • I understand she wants freedom in a house she lives in.

    But if you go to visit your parents it is not of her concern. She can not get both.

    She might be worried about some fantasy she has, but it might not be too bad in the end.

    I am in this situation. My parther is close (physically and emotionally) to her family and I wouldn’t want them visiting. But I am happy for her (without me) to go.

    Problem arises when she wants me to go too and that’s where fight starts. Either eight away or after visit, wether I go or not.

    No advice, just my experience.


  • I always wondered why they haven’t been doing it from the start, seams like it is not as simple as I imagine.

    People will take it, there is no other option and G is working hard not to allow another video platform.

    Problem is ads they are playing are awful and loud. We will make way to silent them and black them out, it is not hard.

    Bigger problem is content they are pushing is getting bad and is pushing creators into burnout. And I don’t want to see videos companies are creating, but want individual contributions.





  • Do you have an idea what attracts you to her?

    Do you know how humans choose their partners?

    \We usually choose ones that wake up our traumas. It is known emotion for us and looks like attraction, especially sexually. Yeah, we are quite perverse. You know that old idiom “similar to your mother”, yeah but not physically or obviously. For me it was that my mother, contrary to what she is saying, hated her father. That also means she hates all man, including her son (me). Keep in mind she is not aware of any of this hate. So until I discovered that, I was attracted to women that hated their father in the same way my mother did. They also hated, and were attracted to, all man. You can imagine how difficult those relationships are.

    Go get her, you will have your hearth broken. And it is worth it. But also find some psychotherapist to help you with solving this issue so that next one will be the one that is kind to you.



  • Sorry for seeing the comments now, but it’s never too late hopefully.

    Therapy helped me. Looking back first important step was noticing that I am angry. It is strange how hidden and unrecognizable anger can be.

    Second part is discovering why I was angry. As soon as we discover why are we angry, we stop being angry. When ai asked my shrink how does that work, he said “I don’t know, but it works”. And it really does.

    Now when someone says “I am angery and I know why I am angre” I am sure they have no idea.

    And I haven’t found other way to resolve that, than psychoanalysis as therapy.