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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • As a psychology nerd:

    • the lack of understanding and empathy for others (even when their opinions are different or “wrong”

    • The lack of understanding of how behavior is driven and encouraged to change.

    • The comfort level with looking at something very complex and assuming you know it deeply in moments (referring to short form video “teaching” psychology and mental health stuff)

    • The overall disconnect between the physical medicine community and the psychological/mental health communities (i.e. mental health is a huge driver in cancer, autoimmune, and other diseases)

    • I could go on. Learning more is my passion but damn it’s so depressing when I begin to understand something and see the abounding ignorance on it






  • I work in a computer shop and talk to regular computer users all day everyday.

    The average user might know what a browser is. Most don’t know that the Internet is outside of their computer.

    Real quotes like this happen everyday: “I just get on the green one to check my Google”. Translation: I check Gmail using the Edge browser.

    It took me 25 minutes the other day to explain what video chat was and that FaceTime is only one kind of it, and it’s only available on Apple devices, of which an HP laptop is not.

    Do not underestimate the computer illiteracy of the common person.










  • Jumping in, I also have a lot of BPD experience (example, a marriage of well over 10 years).

    This is very BPD-adjacent. I’m not saying OP’s gf has it per se, because there is no way we can know from here, but this is definitely on brand.

    If you read between the lines, the social conversation could written as this:

    “Heading home, I need support”

    “I’ll support”

    <Doesn’t support>

    <She feels abandoned, fight or flight kicks in and it turns her attachment-avoidant, results in silent treatment>

    <OP gives space, which is interpreted as further abandonment>

    <OPGF can’t take it anymore, and asks questions that feel like they’re out of left field because in fight-or-flight kicks in, clear thought is nearly impossible>

    <OP finally gives reassurance that he didn’t abandon her>

    <Normalcy continues>

    RyanLiu@lemmy.world read through this comment chain, therapy is the answer here.