Are you the ob/gyn that recommends pregnant people to swap chocolate for broccoli?

I enjoyed that a lot. Thanks

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I wanna see them bible shitposts

There is a documentary about the “it started out with a wank because I broke my arm” guy??

There is no such thing as a bad reason for not wanting to drive a car. Any reason that makes you not want to drive a car is valid.

I know that I need to migrate, nevertheless thank you for making sure I know. What I meant with

How this matters

Is that honestly I don’t see how I am connected to the instance to begin with. I’m trying to find a comparison that expresses what I feel but I fail to find a good one. Like a browser choice? No, there are differences in using firefox vs chrome. Like an email provider? Nah, also a huge difference. Like a remote control? I have come across weirdly designed remote controls though.

But the instance - I have no connection to it whatsoever. It is just a random thing that provides me access to (all instances of) lemmy. I’m not sure I could care less about it.

Maybe the closest I can come up with is the difference between a gmail.account ending in .com or in .de .

But again, maybe I am missing something important here. I’m really tech illiterate and it is not the area I have an innate grasp at. (I used to drop that I have no idea what a router is, how tf the internet works (there are cables at the bottom of the ocean?!) or how code is even doing stuff. The problem is that I always end up with an inbox of people thinking they will be the one to make me understand.)

I’m an absolute noob when it comes to tech and I don’t even know what instance I am on and how this matters to be honest.

Pasta doesn’t lose the majority of its vitamins to its cooking water though. (Mostly because pasta doesn’t have many vitamins to begin with)

That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.

If you google the kid she definitely doesn’t have albinism. Which makes it even weirder that she was sold for body parts.

But if you feel comfortable, why is it problematic?

My mom and sister used to say my husband looks like he just got released from Auschwitz so I feel you 🫠

Maybe it’s because your dad wants you to get a perfect person. Someone who is nice and loving and interesting and attractive and successful and rich and a good cook and volunteers and whatnot. My guess is not that they would prefer you to have someone handsome and unloving instead, but someone who is both handsome and loving. Because to them, you’re perfect. So they want you to have the (what they assume would be) perfect match. Most of this is probably not an active thought process but just some subconscious thinking.

That’s a good point, but in my opinion the other common deaths are way worse. Cancer? Living with the anxiety of impending death and constantly getting sicker, more in pain and being nauseous from medication? Or COPD, feeling like you are suffocating slowly? Alzheimers, Parkinsons? Or my personal fear - dying from a stupid simple cold? Man, I take a heart attack any day of the week.

WHAT DOES THE BLACK MOONFACE MEAN

I ask my spouse all the time and he just replies with another black moonface

I still can’t believe that we went from 16 years of stillstand under CDU to finally some progress under SPD-Grüne-FDP, just for it to be sabotaged by Merz with his stupid lawsuit, which then got FDP into their anal power play and somehow Lindner managed to make his solely Lindner focussed politics even more solely Lindner focussed, and then collectively decided yeah, that government didn’t solve world hunger, injustice, climate change and international wars within 3 years, fuck them, let’s go back to CDU.

And now Spahn, that fuckface, is Fraktionsvorsitzender. This means de facto he will be chancellor down the road. That AfD ballsucking fucktard. Watching the world burn for personal political gain. (Also looking at you, Amthor.)

I never played princess. I always wanted to play queen. Married, mature and with power, sounded like a much better deal.

Gravity affects the booty too. Well thought through graphic

I will proceed to check out the national anthem of Djibouti and the state anthem of Mississippi. I might be back with some questions.

When I was in elementary school I tried to start a protest during the break by getting on the desk and proclaiming that we need to stop the discrimination of the middle finger, it is a finger like the others and should be allowed to stand on its own just like the other fingers. Needless to say I held up my middle fingers during that passionate speech. I was also very sincere about it, not emotional, but I did find it unjust. I’m not sure where I am going with this but it was weighing on my chest for too long and needed to get out finally. Thanks for reading.

People have already pointed out the legal and financial aspects. But I also want to address the philosophical aspect of your question, which I think you had in mind. And I think the answer I would give you is this one:

Marriage has the meaning that you assign to it.

I strongly believe that if we got rid of any legal and financial benefits of marriage, even if we made it explicitly illegal, there would still be a bunch (or even a lot) of people who would get married.

I would compare it to a house fire. If my house was burning (and there were no living beings in it) and I could save 5 things, what would I save? What would you save? I would take, for example, my favorite soft toy from when I was a kid, and my old box filled with diaries. Is this worth any money? No. Does it have any value? To me, it does. To you, it doesn’t. Maybe you are a very rational person that isn’t attached to anything (or to nothing material) and you would indeed make the smartest choices, saving your passport and documents and money. Maybe you would save a small gift that someone important has given you. Maybe you would save the first guitar you ever bought. You save whatever has value and meaning to you. And these things have solely the meaning and value that you have attached to it.

Likewise, people have different value and meaning attached to marriage. If you look at it from a rational, logical side - it has its legal and financial perks and benefits and if they weren’t there, getting married would make no sense. But things don’t have to make sense. The meaning we assign to rituals, things, concepts, aren’t necessarily rational. They are, however, deeply personal.

So, as a side note, please beware of ridiculing people for their views on marriage or weddings, just like you wouldn’t want to ridicule or belittle someone for other things that mean a lot to them. Always sharing the last piece of bread. Always giving a coin to a homeless person. Having a breakfast for 30 minutes every morning. A good night kiss on the nose from their partner. Drawing a dick in the first snow of the winter. Some things mean a lot to people even if they do not rationally make sense.

In the case of marriage, of course, some of the meaning comes from culture, history, and tradition. Marriage might have had different purposes than it has now, and surely the origins weren’t that romantic. (Not saying, however, that marriage has to be romantic.) But it is there. It is important to some people simply because they have, at some point in their life, decided it is important for some reasons, rational or irrational, social, cultural, and hopefully personal too. To them, it makes sense, it has meaning, it has value. And whatever marriage or a wedding ceremony mean - you decide.

So the question you should be asking is not whether or not you should get married, it is what marriage means to you. Does it have any benefit or value in your eyes? Are the legal benefits enough for you to get married? What is your stance on divorce? Do you feel like you would get “closer together” with your partner? Would you feel it would make things harder to separate? There are a ton on questions like these that you can ask yourself, I hope you get the jist. There are not right or wrong answers. The only thing that is important is that the meaning you assign to marriage is (about) the same as the meaning your partner assigns to marriage. You can both not care about a spiritual meaning, but just get married for the benefits. You can both be a type of “whatever happens, we don’t get divorced, til death do us part”. You can be “we’ll keep reevaluating whether we still belong together”. You can also be “we get married because we have children and this is practical”. Or “we get married because I am hot and you are rich and when one of us loses their asset we split”. Or “we just want a fancy huge ass party to show our love in this very moment and celebrate it with our friends and whatever comes afterwards is secondary”. It doesn’t matter what your view is, it matters that you guys agree.