DISCLAIMER: This is something we’d like to do in the far far future, but we’d like to have some suggestions since now so we can research and consider our options. Please don’t ask us when we’re gonna do a cam session, if we’d like to give you a cam session, and please don’t go to our DMs asking for a sexy videocall or something like that
Hello people, we were wondering about what would be a good option to do video calling or a cam session/live sex, that would be free, secure and privacy friendly. We’re talking like creating a link and sharing it with other people we’d like so they can enter and see without much hassle (and if it can ensure privacy for the people joining, it’d be a bonus, but I’m not sure if horny people care that much about their privacy lol). We’re in a Discord server that has a channel for camming but tbh we’d prefer to be more in control of who would see us. We were thinking about Jitsi at first because in 2020 you could create rooms without an account and people could join without an account, but now it seems you have to sign up with Google or GitHub to create a room, and that’s a big no for us (we use Proton Mail for everything NSFW).
Aside from Discord, we’ve also read that Telegram could be a good option (but it requires to use a phone number, so we’re not sure). And of course things like Google Meet or Zoom are discarded immediately, so yeah, we have no clue. Thanks in advance for your help 👌
maybe jitsi
First option coming to mind as well.
Yeah, it was the first thing I thought about, but after trying to set up a call…
I have to either authenticate myself or have someone authenticated in the call, which would be the moderator, and I assume that’d give them powers we’d prefer to have ourselves (mute, kick, etc). And if I want to authenticate,
the only options are Google or Github, can’t use Proton Mail. I guess I could self-host an instance, but that would require a lot of work
Weird I’ve used it for similar stuff during corona times and it worked very easily back then
Yeah, in 2020 it was completely free and no registration needed, I also remember it, we used Jitsi in some of our classes instead of Zoom. But now it’s not as good, I read that authentication was implemented in 2022, so of course people like us who used Jitsi during corona didn’t know about it
Matrix is a pretty drop-in replacement for discord and has encrypted video calling. The framerate on screen sharing can be kinda ass but iirc video was better, tho I don’t use it a lot so ymmv.
People would need to have matrix accounts to join your video feed but they’re easy to make and don’t require phone numbers. I’m not sure there’s any way to stop viewers from talking/showing video as well, so if those are things you want to avoid it may not be ideal, but check it out if it interests you because I might be wrong on that part.
Thanks, sounds good, I’ve read some good things about matrix lately but haven’t really delved into it. Well, worst case we could just mute our device to not hear other people lol. Thank you 🙌
GNU-Jami, Jitsi, PeerCalls, Matrix or XMPP
Can’t currently use Jitsi without a Google or GitHub account (unless we’re okay with someone else to be in control of the meeting, which we aren’t), so can’t use it. But I’ll check the other options, thanks 👍
Since Jitsi is open-source, there are other public instances hosted by known orgs that don’t require accounts. That’s what I’ve been doing since they started requiring it.
https://calyxinstitute.org/projects/digital-services/calyx-meet
Nice, didn’t know Brave had videocalls lol. Since it’s based on Jitsi, maybe that’d be our best option. Thanks a lot
In addition to this and SimpleX for just video calls there is also https://blog.cloudflare.com/orange-me2eets-we-made-an-end-to-end-encrypted-video-calling-app-and-it-was/ Which is OpenSource and very secure, more than jitsi.
@HotCoupleSD1959 I’ve been using SimpleXChat for voice calls, I think it does video too. No need for making an account and has some good other features.
Thanks, we’ll check it out
Depending on your definition of “free” you could use Keet: https://keet.io/
Thanks, I’ll check it
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Since Signal now has usernames and supports group video calls, that is also an options. But it’s not really meant to be a cam session, so might not be great for that.
For a secure, private, and hassle-free video calling experience, there are a few options to consider that prioritize privacy and control, while being user-friendly for your needs. I’ll cover some suggestions based on your preferences (free, secure, privacy-focused, and no mandatory accounts):
- Jitsi Meet (Self-hosted or Third-party Hosting)
Pros:
Jitsi is open-source and can be self-hosted, which gives you complete control over privacy.
No need to sign up or create accounts if you’re using public servers like meet.jit.si. You can simply create a sex cam room and share the link.
You can also set passwords for rooms to limit access.
Strong encryption (optional) and no data collection, especially if self-hosted.
Cons:
If you’re using third-party hosting, you might still be concerned about their privacy practices, so self-hosting is the best option.
Requires some technical setup if you choose to self-host.
Recommendation: Jitsi Meet still seems like a solid option, especially if you’re comfortable with the idea of self-hosting. It gives you the control over who joins and the security features you want.
- Tox (P2P Video Calls)
Pros:
Fully decentralized and peer-to-peer (P2P) — meaning there’s no central server storing your data.
End-to-end encryption by default.
No phone numbers or email sign-up required — totally anonymous.
Cons:
Can be a little tricky for new users and might require a bit of learning to set up.
The app may not have as polished of an interface as mainstream platforms, but it’s designed for privacy first.
Recommendation: If privacy is your top priority and you’re open to using a more niche solution, Tox is a strong candidate.
- Riot/Element (Matrix Protocol)
Pros:
Open-source, secure, and decentralized, with end-to-end encryption available for video calls.
You can create rooms with invites and keep them private to control who joins.
No phone number or email required if you choose a self-hosted instance or use a privacy-respecting server.
Cons:
Somewhat steep learning curve for beginners, as the platform is more focused on messaging and group chat.
Not as “lightweight” as other apps, so it might take a little more time to get used to.
Recommendation: If you’re already using Proton Mail for other aspects of your online life, Element could be a great fit because it’s built around privacy and decentralization.
- BigBlueButton (Self-hosted)
Pros:
Designed for online education, but can be adapted for private meetings.
Open-source and can be self-hosted for full control.
Video conferencing with features like private rooms, screen sharing, and more.
Cons:
Setting it up requires technical expertise if you’re self-hosting.
Might have more features than you need if you’re just looking for simple video calls.
Recommendation: BigBlueButton could work if you’re looking for a more robust platform that’s still privacy-respecting and can be fully controlled by you.
- Signal (With Video Calls)
Pros:
Open-source and end-to-end encrypted.
Allows video calls with strong privacy guarantees.
No data is stored on servers, and the platform is very privacy-conscious.
Cons:
Requires phone number verification.
Not as convenient for group calls as some other platforms.
Recommendation: Signal is excellent if you’re looking for simple, encrypted one-on-one video calls. It doesn’t quite offer the group flexibility of other platforms, but if privacy is your priority, it’s a top choice.
- PeerTube (Self-hosted or Hosted Instance)
Pros:
Open-source decentralized platform primarily for video sharing, but you can also live stream privately with password protection.
No central server storing your data, and you can choose to self-host or use a community-run instance that respects privacy.
Cons:
Not specifically designed for real-time video calling, but more for video streaming.
Can be more technical to set up, especially for live video.
Recommendation: PeerTube is great for streaming private content, but may not be the best for typical “video call” needs unless you’re okay with some setup and the streaming format.
- Nextcloud Talk (Self-hosted or Hosted Instance)
Pros:
Nextcloud offers a self-hosted solution with secure video calls, and it integrates well with file sharing and group collaboration.
End-to-end encryption.
If you self-host, you control all your data.
Cons:
Setting up a Nextcloud server can be a bit involved if you want full control over privacy.
Recommendation: If you’re already using Nextcloud for cloud storage, adding Nextcloud Talk could be a great option for private video calls.
Final Thoughts:
For simplicity and control, Jitsi Meet (self-hosted) or Tox would be your best bets.
For the most privacy-respecting option without needing to rely on a centralized server, Tox or Signal (for smaller calls) are strong choices.
If you need to scale to groups, Riot/Element or BigBlueButton (self-hosted) could fit the bill, especially if you want more features than just video calls.
Overall, it sounds like you’re looking for a balance between privacy, security, and simplicity, so starting with Jitsi Meet or Tox seems like the way to go. Let me know if you need more specific details about any of these option.
