In your opinion, if your partner slips their hand under your sleepwear and fondles your naked body, are they initiating sex?

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 month ago

      Ah.

      … having sex and meta-concepts around sex as a kind of autistic hyperfocus… can lead to some strangeness.

      I didn’t mean to totally dress you down for no reason, I tend to overanalyze.

      On the other hand…

      👉👈

      …perhaps you would be amenable to another kind of being dressed down, as an apology for my misplaced analytical zealotry?

      I can be gentle.

      =P

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        1 month ago

        I really, really appreciate it, and would love to offer myself up normaly.

        But I thought about it before, and sadly, it turned out I’m def not gay 😅

        I envy you people who have all those options, and who can please anyone!

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          1 month ago

          Well hey, no harm done, no offense taken!

          Take it as a kind of awkward compliment then =P

          … I wouldn’t say that I can please anyone though.

          I’ve dated a significant amount of different kinds of people.

          … Some people, sure, they can be pleased sexually, but in general? As a person, in a relationship?

          No, they have massive insecurities, and try to train you into basically being a scape goat or emotional or financial dumpster for all of them… its not possible to please such people in that sense, because they are too broken to be able to love, and either too cowardly or proud to realize that… they are their own problem, and they are the only ones who even have a chance of fixing it.

          … I hope that you are not that kind of repressed, by that kind of person, who can never take accountability for their own actions or inactions, and instead blames them all on someone they act like they own, not love.

          If you are… you’re better than that, and you’re better than them.

          You just have to believe it, and know it.

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            1 month ago

            I mean, thank you. I’m a dude just to be sure, I assume you are too. I have no experience in that, I was asexual till 28 basically, a prude. Now I whore out for free lol.

            I mean, I’m not selfish, you can oogle my posts if you want anyway, it does not hurt me, although there is not much to see.

            Sorry you had such partners, you seem pretty chill.