• plistig@feddit.de
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    To ask the most obvious question first: Does the girl know you? Is she aware that you exist?

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      Or regular pants with (deep) pockets. I know women who shop in the men’s department, solely because of the pockets

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    Are you actively in a relationship with her? If not, then don’t. Love and infatuation (which I honestly don’t mean any negative connotation by) aren’t the same thing, and telling someone who you’re not dating that you love them is almost always going to be unwelcome.

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    Tell her more words than those three. The three are important but also overused. Tell her what you feel when you’re together. Or what she does that is special to you. Or character traits you find amazing and why.

    Show her that you actually see her.

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    „It’s ok if you eat my fries, even though I asked you three times if you wanted fries and you said you didn’t want to have fries. I am, in no way, struggling with the urge to kill you.“

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    Assuming this would be news to her, be gradual about it, over time. Precise instructions are not possible, but kinda like smile more at her, show interest, chat regularly, etc and if it looks like she is showing interest back over time, it might be as simple at saying it straight out.

    Watch for signs of rejection. Pushing on past those is rude.

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    You don’t. Part of love is openness, you can’t love a person while not being willing to share the fact that you love them. Pretty much by definition

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    “i hate you” (its what women say to me, they actually mean ‘i love you’ (rizz))

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    Just being there when she needs it, spending quality time together, not offending or hurting her, things like that…

    Sounds easy but really not.

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      That can be a good way to remain in the friend zone too. Gotta drop some hints and hope she reacts to them positively.

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    1. find girl who is mutually attracted to you. Proceed to step 2.
    2. date and stuff. Listen. Collaborate. Trust. Bask in the glory that is romance.
    3. identify and implement love languages.
    4. by now you damn well better have figured out what she likes and doesn’t and with this knowledge you have your answer.

    And chocolate. Also, she should be doing these steps in parallel with you, equally. You also deserve to be shown love without saying it. If she doesn’t, dump her and return to step 1.

    Source: lesbians