It is so much more complex than that though. It is really a question of self awareness and abstraction. These are yet another form of intelligence. We all have various forms and weakness. Learning to appreciate and bridge with each other is what matters. I am male, and yet I hate having to spell out and describe mundane details all the time. I mold myself and my expectations to the people around me in life, but most people’s limited self awareness annoys me too. I rarely mention it to anyone, but I have an awareness of how often I must repeat myself just to keep the person in question’s marbles rolling around the track where I need their focus to stay.