Yet another refugee who washed up on the shore after the great Reddit disaster of 2023

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Thanks, I appreciate that. I’m not really enjoying 2025 so far (I’ll just mention that I’m pretty far left leaning as well, so you can understand that country/world events are stressful).

    We had planned on selling our house in CA and moving to WA. Now my wife has gone to NM to live with our son, and I’m getting ready to sell the CA house so we can each buy one. I’ve decided to stay in the same area of CA (where I grew up, where all my friends are), which means my house will be a small condo since prices here are super high. So that’s adding to the stress, but compared to the marriage ending thing it feels more minor.

    I know things will settle out, but it’s been hard to take.



  • Maybe it depends on climate, but bread left out where I am gets moldy way before it gets stale. The best solution is to keep it in the freezer (in a bag, and any of those methods but CE would probably be fine). Weeks later, the bread is still soft and send fresh. Bread thaws unbelievably fast. If I’m making a sandwich, I take two slices out and put them on a plate separated. Usually by the time I’ve got the other ingredients ready to go, the bread is thawed. If you’re toasting the bread, it can go straight from freezer to toaster. If you’re making sandwiches to take to work or school, you can just make them on the frozen bread.





  • But if you read the article, is not what we assumed. The boxes were being shipped from the German embassy in Japan to Argentina, and were marked as personal effects. The Argentinians did a spot check and found the propaganda, so they confiscated it because they were worried it could impact their neutrality. It went to the courts, up to their supreme court, though no one knows what action if any the court took. Obviously the Nazis didn’t get the material back.

    Argentina being a safe haven for Nazis didn’t happen until after the war, if I understand things correctly.



  • I’ve discussed work/careers with a lot of people around your age over the years. Here’s what I end up saying - it’s broader than your specific situation, but includes it:

    • If there’s something that you’re so passionate about that you’ll do it as an unpaid hobby, you might as well take a shot at making money from it. If it’s something like art or music, where there’s a huge amount of competition and only a tiny percentage are able to sustain themselves from it, you should have a Plan B, and set yourself some guidelines for long you’ll try it, but you might as well give your a go if it’s a passion.

    • If there’s nothing you’re super passionate about, but a number of things you enjoy, you should take some time to look into what a career in each of those things is like. What are the hours, what is the typical pay, etc. Pick the one that fits with a lifestyle that clicks with you.

    • If you don’t have anything from either of the two above, do you have any skills or aptitudes that are sellable? For instance, if you’re good at math, you might be a good fit for accounting. If you’re good with your hands, you might consider a trade skill like plumbing or mechanic. You funny have to be passionate about those things to have a good job doing them.

    • If you have zero from any of the above, look for a job that wouldn’t suck after some years. A business that’s willing to take untrained people, doesn’t chew them up and spit them out, and that has room for advancement so that you have some possibility of increasing pay over your career.

    There are lots of big chain retail stores that will take people right out of high school, but for many of them their model is to train you up quickly, load you up with responsibility, promote you if you work out well, and then within a couple years start cutting your hours to drive you away because they can get a new high school kid for cheaper.

    There are lots and lots of jobs and businesses that just suck, and you want to position yourself to not be in them. Most people don’t have something they’ve always wanted to do and are super passionate about. It’s fine to have a job vs a career, but you don’t want to find yourself at 40 slaving away at a shitty job for little pay, wishing you’d gotten a degree in one thing or another so you could be working fewer hours for more pay. And I’m not saying it’s all about money, but lack of a living wage is a real problem for a lot of people.


  • I retired in January, and I’m having this issue to a point it feels insane. The other night I got undressed for bed and was dumbfounded when I saw that the hamper I was tossing my clothes into was otherwise empty. My brain just could not accept that I was at the end of the same day that featured doing laundry earlier. That had to be at least the day before. But I’ve had other things that were the opposite: didn’t I just run the dishwasher? No, that was a week ago.

    I have no time cues. Trash day is about the only think that happens on a regular schedule. Some days I’m busy and they go quicker. Some days are mostly reading or whatever, and they go on forever. After 40 years of getting up and going to work, with certain things happening certain days, it feels pretty surreal.