That’s not much consolation to everything alive today. I think the existence of life is pretty morally neutral, but the suffering were causing for the life that already exists is inexcusable.

I WOULD find that neat if the planet was uninhabitable for human life only as opposed to most life

But do they actually read and watch the books and dvds? Cause my mom doesn’t read, so books are just decorations to her

My mum used to do this to my books in my room and I hated it

Are you talking about irl Linux spaces? It that a thing? If not, how do you know there aren’t women in online Linux spaces? Fwiw I’m afab nb

So this is how I find out I’ve also been doing high fives wrong half the time ;_;

I’ve always been torn on whether it’s supposed to be a high five or praying hands. Is thank you really a common meaning?

Emojis are pretty hard for my autistic ass.

Normal enough for adhd that it was even one of my assessment questions!

Only way that worked for me was specifically seeking out psychs who specifically treat adult adhd. You unfortunately have to rely on either word of mouth or rating websites for doctors, and neither are reliably available.

Yeah I’ve heard before that in some place, adhd was just a label slapped on unruly kids in some places. That’s certainly part of where the stigma comes from and why some parents are so against their child getting diagnosed. But adhd is a genuine issue, and two wrongs (misdiagnoses and refusal to diagnose those who actually have it) don’t make a right.

I don’t know you, but the way you’re wondering about it seems like a sign you’re a good parent. Especially in combination with the knowledge of what your parents did wrong (whether or not they meant to).

That last thing you said is SO spot on. If you don’t already pretty much know that you have adhd (or other types of neurodivergence that you can somewhat mask), there’s no way anyone else will ever consider it. Doctors and teachers aren’t usually trained for it, and even if they are, parents are likely to reject the possibility because of the stigma. Plus, adult adhd hasn’t been recognized for all that long, so plenty of doctors that don’t keep up with science after they graduate just insist that it’s not a thing.

You basically have to specifically know that you have adhd and that you want treatment, and then you can start to look for professionals who specifically diagnose treat adult adhd. They’re few and far between pretty much everywhere. If you’re in a place where you need a referral, good luck also convincing your GP (I never told mine I needed the referral for adhd, I let him assume it’s depression again. Though my psych said I don’t HAVE to have a referral, it’ll just be easier for them, insurance-paperwork wise).

Im so angry and sad for you friend. You’ve been robbed of so much more than me. I’m seriously so lucky that I get paid well, so I can live off savings if I lose a job again. I also live in a room that costs waaay less than market because I’ve got one of the few good landladies. I might even still finish my masters, though the amount of time it took me won’t look good on a CV.

Taking adhd seriously as a medical professional and actually helping those who have it genuinely saves lives. It’s outrageous that it took so long for that to happen to you. I admire your mindset, that you’re ready to now live the life you could’ve always lived. Rooting for you.

My psychologist did say that most people with untreated adhd have depression!

My experience on meds is pretty similar. Holy shit is it nice when it’s quiet in your head. I get so fucking much done. And I can rest more productively, I actually have some energy left over at the end of the day to exercise, read or draw. I knew I was exhausted all the time, but I never knew how much easier it could be if you don’t use up so much energy for every tiny task.

Teach me your ways. I’ve been trying so. hard. to do this. It just won’t happen, to my ever increasing frustration.

Jokes on you, you’ll have to explain that to all your future partners

Imma spray you with one of those spaying water bottles

My demi experience: yeah sure I enjoy that. I enjoy gaming too. Either is nice to have, but if I can’t do it for a year, I won’t be thinking about it that much, ya know? I was shocked to find out how much people think about sex, and particularly shocked that they’ll see a stranger, acquaintance or friend and literally feel a desire to have sex with them? Like, how many people have imagined they’re having sex with me? Ew. Don’t do that to me.

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And here I was feeling bad for confiscating beer from 14 year olds at summer camp at 17 and then drinking it (drinking age 16).

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