I still don’t get it. So, he benefits from society, then the ethical thing to do is to set up his own family not the society he benefits from?

To a wife of that time, I understand - that is someone who did unpaid labor for decades so that he could have a career. So that money, yes she helped earn it.

I dunno, something about the whole system offends me. Taking more than you need, then directing the excess to your own kids. If literally every family could do it, sure. But how it works now just attenuates inequality.

I wholeheartedly agree with that - what we need is not a system of generational wealth being passed down particular families, but an economic system that spreads it out better.

That’s a good question. I can’t think of it in genres but do certainly associate some musical sounds with flavors.

High pitched sounds are acidic, sour.

Low hum is boozy, or molasses flavor.

Harp strumming is like jellybeans somehow.

Yeah but how did they get it, and who will get it when they die? It’s like a feedback loop.

Yes it is. I’ve written this before but once, years ago I went to Target and came home with 4 bottoms, all the same size. One said 4, one said 9, one said 5, one said 7.

My mom just wanted to make enough to spend it over her lifetime, and that seems fair to me. She got nothing from her parents and had to support her own mom in her old age, and didn’t want to cost us anything.

I would argue that inheritance is a huge driver of inequality. I have gotten small amounts from the estate of my dad’s parents (my dad died when I was 16) and a childless relative and even those amounts jumped us ahead some, I can imagine what some huge amount unearned would do - but it’s just that. Unearned.

I do better shopping online. I am tallish and there’s not much available locally, so much more available online.

Generally you can write to customer service for actual measurements, I have to do that sometimes. Reading reviews can help too, especially when people say their measurements and what size they got.

My kids (as I did when I was their age) do love shopping at the thrift store, trying things on.

I don’t like bourbon & coke but you might want to ask this on !cocktails@lemmy.world , someone who does might be able to suggest another drink you’d like based on your preference.

Bourbon and pineapple juice or pineapple tepache is amazing if you want to go in a different direction.

Fit and padded. I think if you call it a powerlifter build that’s a good description in itself.

I found corn broth really improves the vegan dough. You can use cobs to make it, and save the corn for something else. Corn cobs & an onion.

Me too! So flavorful. I don’t do bone broth exactly, can’t get them that clean. But there are some in my freezer right now waiting.

My kids have asked for tamales every year since I made them for Christmas about ten years ago, but I am not yet rested up from that batch. Even though we had a tamalada and they helped wrap them, the days ahead making tamale dough (two versions because we have vegans) and fillings (several versions because, again, vegans) it was exhausting. I think it will be either gumbo or oxtail soup this year, and a big pot of beans.

Whew, that’s good news. My MIL always just buys a bucket of Manteca but I don’t like to do that either.

Not an answer for you right now, but I just make lard whenever we get a big hunk of pork, I get the one with a bone and skin cut the skin & fat off and render it and it’s quite a project but makes enough for my purposes though the year, I don’t use it often. I wouldn’t expect a shop to do that for me for any amount I’d be willing to pay!

Well hopefully the world will figure this out, or population On a small scale it’s so obvious that soil needs to be managed for a healthy garden or small farm. Big farms just throw down fertilizer (which was a world changing improvement to agriculture) and don’t do enough to keep the soil alive and healthy. The headline “poor soil forces fertilizer use” is sort of backwards as it’s the industrial farming that’s sucked the life out of the soil.

“Not now, I am busy”

"Great! I need to work now, see you around!’

You don’t need to be boring - I am telling you, working woman to working woman, that is an ineffective strategy with determined guys. You need to convince him you do not have time for him in your full and interesting life.

The filter to over-smooth everything and the ridiculously aging roller set hairstyle are making her look like a well maintained 60 year old.

Put the same person in different clothes and a more relaxed hairstyle and she would look completely different. I bet she was elected young and tried to look more mature.

It doesn’t look like anyone cooks in that kitchen either.

Yeah we saw one of our neighbors watering the storm drain. But also recently she drove from her driveway to ours - literally got in her car, backed out the driveway then immediate turn into ours, to come ask a question. Then got back in her car, backed out of our driveway and immediate turn into hers. So I think she is just crazy.

If it ain’t broke…

I find it takes much, much longer to heal from injury. That’s the main downside I’ve experienced. When I say longer - when about 8 yo I broke my arm, it took 5-6 weeks to heal, maybe 10 to really heal, stop swelling ever and feel exactly like the other. When about 45 I broke my finger and it took 2 years to fully heal and feel like the rest of them.

But it also takes longer to get mad, I’m less irritable, more perspective I guess. Easier to feel happy/satisfied, too, it’s closer to the surface now.