Almost everyone I’ve ever been attracted to was significantly older than me. I liked that they usually knew what they wanted and were straightforward about it, had direction in life, and I simply find men in a certain age range more physically attractive. What mattered most was how we got along and that we enjoyed each other’s company.

The pros and cons varied more by the individual relationship rather than by age. Age does not always correspond to maturity or responsibility. Looking back, I was definitely not as mature as I thought I was either, so there were times where they would be annoyed watching me make a big deal over something they already went through long ago and in hindsight, was not important at all. That, or they never outgrew that phase themselves. Sometimes there would be a mismatch in physical activity levels (I like to stay active and include sport in dates), although this is again dependent on the individual.

As @MuttMutt@lemmy.world pointed out, the risk of age-related health complications also increases and it’s heartbreaking to watch your partner experience them (my condolences to you).

I read that in the voice of a German excited to show you his kitchen.

I wanted to find out where it came from because it’s such a clever and fun design. Found a Facebook post from someone who says they made it themselves after being inspired by another artist who makes furniture out of sea mines (I assume they were referring to this one).

So I guess it can be called…minecraft.

As others have already said, exposure can be a good way to overcome fear. Start by going somewhere nearby. Maybe ask a friend or someone you feel safe with to accompany you on walks or public transportation a few times until you are familiar with the route or area. Download an offline map in case you get lost.

You said you feel out of place at your local library , but they’re a quiet, safe place where everyone generally minds their own business. You can probably even bring take your own ebooks there to read. You don’t have to interact with anyone if you don’t want to, just get used to being in a different setting.

Canada has been boycotting American products and imposing counter-tariffs on them. Their prime minister also announced a plan to reduce reliance on the US by requiring its federal government to buy from local suppliers, creating a fund to help sectors most affected by US tariffs, investing in Canadian agriculture, and training its local workforce, among other things.

Here’s a link to that goes into detail about the measures being taken.

Hot.

Also the inspiration for 🫃

Here is a neat listing of fediverse applications and their uses.

Of these I have only used Lemmy and PeerTube. Planning to try out PieFed soon.

Thanks for providing a source!

I just noticed that we have nearly identical usernames, down to the instance 😯 I had to do a double-take when I saw the comment thread. It was not my intention to imitate you. I am simply not creative when it comes to choosing usernames.

Here is one article which makes a similar point, and another which discuss the strategies of scammers and profiles of people likely to fall for scams. (I made the original comment and am not the lime who responded to your citation request). I will address your other comments on the topic here.

I can also offer my anecdotal observations about Nigerian scams from time I spent scambaiting when I was younger, back when I thought I was doing a service by distracting scammers’ focus away from someone vulnerable, and because it was amusing to see what stories they’d come up with.

• You were correct in saying that the opening messages would be copy-pasted stories with details changed.
• The stories had flaws and inconsistencies, lacked detail.
• Confronting the scammers immediately or refusing to switch to their platform of choice usually caused them to disconnect immediately. The excuses would come later when they were invested in a longer conversation and didn’t want to lose a potential victim.
• The general theme was that they are from a country other than Nigeria, or military sent overseas, stuck in a bad situation and need help. If I pretended to be male, there could be a romance angle.
• Sometimes they would admit where they are really from (confirmed with an IP grabber) but change their story and try to get sympathy by claiming scamming was the only way they could earn enough to survive.
• Gift cards were the initial payment method requested most of the time.

The long, elaborate (often romance and crypto-themed) scams you are thinking of are likely pig-butchering scams originating from China. Perhaps Nigerian scammers have evolved their strategies since then too; it has been years since I bothered to engage with them at all.

So no, I was not perpetuating a meme about scammers “preselecting stupid people”, nor did I say that everyone who falls for scams is stupid. Many are lonely, elderly, unfamiliar with technology, desperate, or kind-hearted but naive.

Often times scammers will deliberately tell unconvincing stories with errors in details and spelling to immediately filter out people who are cautious or observant enough to challenge them.

People generally view constructive hobbies more favorably than consumptive ones. As long as gaming isn’t interfering with their responsibilities and relationships, I view it as just one of the ways people unwind in their spare time. I haven’t noticed strong negative reactions to gaming unless the gamer begins to neglect important parts of their life for it.

Around the house: cooking and meal prep, keeping a clean and neat living space if you don’t already. Basic home and car repairs. All of these will save you money in the long run. On the subject of money, learning to budget and manage your finances is also helpful. I recommend fitness to anyone. If the gym isn’t for you, find a sport you like, or at least go outside for walks.

As for studies, you can start with free online courses in things you think you might be interested in and assessing how you feel about them before going further.

To start, there has to be mutual attraction, and the person has to demonstrate with their actions that they truly enjoy being in control to bring out submissive tendencies in me. That can mean not being afraid to tell me what they want out of fear that it will turn me off, escalating when there is sexual tension, and guiding me into what they want me to do without having to ask. I can’t enjoy it if it’s being done to satisfy my fantasy.

There are certain tones of voice or mannerisms in speaking which excite me very much but are hard to describe. One is slightly mocking, another is almost clinical but with the slightest hint of amusement or arousal. 🫠

When I hear “Mastodon”, the first thing that comes to mind is the band as well.

To remind you that you’re not as tough as you think you are.

Edit: why is that one on a leash?

Dark jokes aside, it’s common for symptoms to change during the timeline of the pregnancy. Some women say they start to feel more energetic and less nauseous during the second trimester, for example.

I prefer local markets for fresh and domestically grown produce, and because I prefer giving to the community instead of to chains. However, there are things which can only be found in larger markets because they are not grown/availble locally or currently not in season.

Local markets for quality and price, supermarkets for variety.

Local museums, galleries, and exhibitions for discovering art in-person.

Lemmy has a community for sharing art, !artshare@lemmy.world , and there might be more niche communities for specific art styles depending on what you’re looking for. Art communities on Reddit have some very talented members (you can use a front end to view them if you don’t have an account).

Artists that document their process and have art in the portfolio in a similar style from before AI took off are more likely to be genuine.

Is SantasMagicalComfort like a limited holiday edition that is brought out once a season?

Love seeing original references to usernames and inside jokes in the community.