Pretty interesting question sorry all the redditors are downvoting this and giving you fantasy land looks don’t matter replies. A couple comments nailed it, if they’re out of your league then improve yourself until you’re in their league, or lower your standards. Looks are just one aspect of attractiveness, being an interesting/funny/enjoyable person to be around has a huge impact. Just bring something else to the table to bridge that gap.

If you don’t want to do that and don’t want to lower your standards, you can’t really expect them to go for you. Just have to put yourself in places where maybe an opportunity comes to you or you happen to click with someone ¯\(ツ)/¯

I mean while most of this is true, saying looks aren’t important to long term happiness is just not the reality we live in. Living life as someone that people don’t like looking at grinds you down, ask anyone who is/was overweight.

You can do a lot to improve it, by wearing nice clothes being healthy etc, and you can make up for it by being the funniest one in the group, being the most interesting etc, but you’re also asking this of people who will likely have the hardest time dealing with strangers. I experienced a massive difference in how people treated me after I started going to the gym, just a lot more people smiling at me and treating me well when I hadn’t said a single word.

When the world is friendly to you when you do nothing, it’s a lot easier to be confident and funny and happy, and vice versa. I’m not saying to be doomer “there’s nothing you can do,” but just don’t ignore people when they tell you it DOES impact their lives negatively, even in the long term. Not trying to be negative it’s just frustrating when people take it from “this is not what’s holding you back from being with good people” (true) to “this has barely any effect” (false)

If you respond instantly at any point during the day it can mean you’re not doing anything the entire day or you’re actually desperate for interaction. If you don’t feel secure in your relationship with someone you might want them to think you have a lot going on.

Also, some research shows being less available can make you seem more valuable. This article is related to business relationships but it’s the same principle. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/18/smarter-living/benefits-of-being-scarce.html

It takes a “special” kind of person to take something so ingrained in culture and still say “I’m not gonna do that,” usually a slightly crazy and/or neurodivergent person. I think this is partly why there are so many “insane” vegans, because it’s self selecting for people who are outside the norm.

I don’t even mention to most people I’m vegan, usually just an excuse like “meat makes me feel sick” because the average person will think I’m going to give them a 20 minute lecture.

To anyone who is the vegan who will give the 20 minute lecture, please consider if your goal is actually animal welfare, you can hardly ever debate someone out of something they like. Instead, just show people easy dishes you made that they actually enjoy (pasta with spaghetti sauce, French fries, vegetable stir fry, roasted veggies with olive oil) and you’ll often find they start cooking more vegan food (or at least less meat), and also talk more positively about veganism

You are correct, hexbear did defederate from sh.itjust.works about a week after federating with them, so the vote became moot.

The reason you gave is part of the reason hexbear admins gave, but I would take what they say with a grain of salt. I’ve seen people say things like “being trans in thoughts is a much different experiece than being trans in the way you dress, act, and look” and hexbear users will call that transphobic/uninclusive, as well as generally being vitriolic and unpleasant.

As an example, a post where someone says “Biden brings up minimum wage increase and asks other democrats to speak up” will have several comments from hexbear users saying “capitalist bootlickers defending Biden should be shot like the vermin they are.” Maybe some users harassed hexbear users for these comments? I personally didn’t see any but it’s definitely possible.

Actually, there was a vote immediately after the defederation to see whether people wanted lemmygrad refederated, and about 80-90% of the votes were to stay defederated, so it seems the users of sh.itjust.works also don’t like grad.

edit: my mistake, turns out it was hexbear that was voted on, which has similar content

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sadly if you try to be a good landlord and make a slim margin, you’ll get dumped a huge repair bill/tax increase/other expense and now you’re running the appartment at a loss. At that point you either sell it to a company willing to exploit it or you have to be less nice to your tenants and ignore repairs or charge more. Most people choose the first which is why we end up with terrible landlords.

aside: heard someone in that exact situation running low income housing, on a phone call with an expert talking to the government. The expert said “any prudent management would raise the rents the maximum allowed amount”

for things like this I just assume the person’s brain just exploded for a second. I could definitely see myself doing this with 2 hours of sleep, and feeling 100% sure you said try is also something a sleep-deprived person would do. Still sucks when it teaches you not to speak up though

Do you have any example of an “unpopular opinion” that has gotten you banned or any conservative banned? Also, probably the biggest reason I could see conservatives feeling like they’re being “silenced” is because half of their platform is based on being racist(sometimes unintentionally), anti-lgbtq, etc.

The difference being when conservatives say it, 99.999% of the time we see the actual reason they were banned was for saying something like “it sure would be unfortunate if someone accidentally dropped an axe on Nancy Pelosi’s head haha XD” as a figure with wide reach, or something similarly egregious.

Show me something similar happening here and I will also not take their complaints seriously.

I keep learning this exists and then instantly forgetting about it…

I use an android app called kanji study to help learn/practice writing kanji. Once you have the basics down, writing characters helps a lot since it helps you recognize radicals that appear all the time (and helps a lot with remembering characters)

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mindtwisted.kanjistudy

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