Giving kids the illusion of privacy so you can monitor them and punish them for doing things you disagree with is way worse than just not letting them do that thing. Or better yet, why not step the fuck up, do some parenting and explain to your kids why some things are bad.
I don’t think you understand what I’m saying. You start by showing trust in them, if you realize that they do weird stuff you find the source and then act on it. In your case you’re skipping the trust phase and applying parental control from the get go, preemptive discipline is no way to raise a child.
I was responding specifically to a case where one might be worried about what their child might see online. I think it’s totally valid to stop your kid from looking at things that are going to be upsetting to them.
Personally I’d let my kid loose on the internet. When I picked up some questionable information on the internet and shared it with my parents you know what happened. They confronted those views of mine in conversation. They didn’t spy on me to attempt to find out where that came from. And what would even be the point in doing so? They already talked it out with me. It’s not necessary to spy on your kids, those are the actions of someone who is afraid of their children being different to themselves.
I’ll just tell him that’s it’s fine, nothing to be ashamed of. And tell him about sex stuff not just educational like, biology, safety, etc. But also the fun stuff like cosplay, masturbation, etc.
And yeah respect others privacy and don’t do sexual stuff in public and never force anyone. And get at least 10 lol before getting gf.
or just don’t comment on it at all, they should be able to figure out you’ve seen it from the context of you commenting on other parts of their search history, and realize that if they’re going to do something private then maybe they want to close the curtains, for everyone’s sake
You first need to know that it’s a problem before applying disciplinary measures
Giving kids the illusion of privacy so you can monitor them and punish them for doing things you disagree with is way worse than just not letting them do that thing. Or better yet, why not step the fuck up, do some parenting and explain to your kids why some things are bad.
I don’t think you understand what I’m saying. You start by showing trust in them, if you realize that they do weird stuff you find the source and then act on it. In your case you’re skipping the trust phase and applying parental control from the get go, preemptive discipline is no way to raise a child.
Parental controls against certain types of content aren’t really preemptive punishment
I was responding specifically to a case where one might be worried about what their child might see online. I think it’s totally valid to stop your kid from looking at things that are going to be upsetting to them.
Personally I’d let my kid loose on the internet. When I picked up some questionable information on the internet and shared it with my parents you know what happened. They confronted those views of mine in conversation. They didn’t spy on me to attempt to find out where that came from. And what would even be the point in doing so? They already talked it out with me. It’s not necessary to spy on your kids, those are the actions of someone who is afraid of their children being different to themselves.
Eggactly.
I’ll just tell him that’s it’s fine, nothing to be ashamed of. And tell him about sex stuff not just educational like, biology, safety, etc. But also the fun stuff like cosplay, masturbation, etc.
And yeah respect others privacy and don’t do sexual stuff in public and never force anyone. And get at least 10 lol before getting gf.
Now go play outside or I’ll spank you.
Edit: F me, for not seeing its lemmy shitpost
or just don’t comment on it at all, they should be able to figure out you’ve seen it from the context of you commenting on other parts of their search history, and realize that if they’re going to do something private then maybe they want to close the curtains, for everyone’s sake