We first got into it primarily because the GF and I wanted to view how each of us looked while fucking. Yeah you can film yourself but it is a real thrill for me to see a cock pounding her. She really likes watching me do missionary from behind. She gets so wet just watching my cock go in and out of another woman’s pussy
It was a bit hit and miss for us. No jealousy, but it was hard to find couples we were both into. Sometimes it was really fun, but other times someone was taking one for the team.
I personally think all couples should try it. At least then you’ll know if it’s for you.
I never understood “taking one for the team”. I could never enjoy it if my GF was just doing it to please me. In my limited experience this works best if the women handle everything. The rules and the over all plan. Even signaling when the action is going to begin. If both women are into fucking the other guy it should go well. Most guys won’t ever have a problem fucking the other woman. It so much more just a fun act and no emotional drama with guys.
You talk, and decide, as consenting adults. It’s really not rocket surgery.
Love the expression “rocket surgery”
I’m quite fond of a good malaphor.
It is hot, at least for us, to watch each other having sex, like watching a porn were your partner is the protagonist. Also, nobody fucks the same. The way my GF fucks or is fucked by someone else is different than the way we fuck. The same applies to me. It is hot for us seeing each other having sex in a way we don’t usually do. Also, being with someone you’re not normally with is hot for us too. And finally and more important, it is fun. We date other couples and have a really good time. We even have dates with other couples where we don’t even have sex: a normal night out but with the added bonus of flirting without guilt or shame.
My GF and I met several years ago and we always were a horny and playful couple, so we started talking about other people while having sex and started making jokes about having sex with other people really early in the relationship. So we didn’t really had a lot of trouble taking a step towards being swingers. We did threesomes with some friends and everything was ok most of the time so we also dated some couples we know.
Most important thing is, I think, to always tell the truth to your partner and have some sort of rules, but also remember that rules will be modified over time and that both need to be aware of that.
When you start does everyone just get naked or do you play some kind of game that causes the removal or articles of clothing?
Another question - do the guys try to both finish at about the same time?
Honestly there isn’t a ritual or a procedure to follow. It depends on the mood, the place, etc. Sometimes if we go to a hotel with a hit tub in the room we get naked as soon as we enter the room and jump inside. Sometimes we simply dance and tell jokes and start kissing and making out on the bed and the clothes slowly come off. Sometimes the girls make a strip show for us, sometimes we just cuddle together watching a movie. There is no script to follow.
From our own experience I think strip poker or strip trivia are the best ways to get naked the first times you date another couple.
About finishing, honestly I don’t try to. Sometimes it happens (don’t know if the other dude is keeping pace) and sometimes one finishes first, sits on the bed or on a char and enjoys the view or gets some towels for when everybody has finished.
Well, looking at proper swapping as opposed to group scenes and orgies, it’s really about the shared experience. Monogamy is great, but there are some things that you can’t do, and can only share vicariously. Being able to more viscerally see and hear a partner being fucked, or otherwise engaging in sex, you get a fuller perspective of how they respond, what they’re feeling.
Sure, when you’re with your partner, you have some ability to see what they’re experiencing, but it’s different.
Plus there’s the aspect of being able to interact with the member of the other couple you’re with. Being able to share the experience of watching your partners do their thing enriches your own sex. Just the experience of looking over at your partners, then looking back and sharing a smile or a laugh, or the enhancement of pleasure is such a wonderful moment of human connection.
Even taking turns, where one pairing has sex while the other watches, and then the second pairing uses the arousal from that to lead into sex, which often feeds back to the initial pairing so they go again is a very powerful thing. If you pick the right couple, it deepens not only your relationship, but the friendship between couples. Which may not seem hot on the surface, but the best sex happens as partners learn each other. So an extended friendship can make the sex amazing between everyone involved.
The camaraderie of it is nice as well, though that’s not the hot part. Being able to congratulate friends on how well they’ve engaged with your partner is lovely.
And, like you said, watching a partner fuck is better than porn with them. It’s immediate and real in a way that recordings can’t match.
