My gf’s nudes, sometimes she hops into a call and masturbates with me

For me, it started out with plain old imagination and porn videos. It took a tragically long time to discover literotica and audio.

At least for me, written erotica (sometimes with the assistance of AI), comics and audio give a much nicer experience with preference changing depending on mood. Part of that might be because it leaves a lot to the imagination.

Only time I use video porn nowadays is when wanting to just “get it over with quickly”.

Probably a stereotypical ~40 yr old straight white guy, I mostly watch alot of big titty porn, mostly black women, though it’s all over the place in terms of race. For some reason I like watching orgies or gangbangs, not quite sure why, though I have a slight domination/rape fetish too, so anything that kind of gets into that domination territory is what gets me off. Honestly though, I’ve been pretty depressed lately after a breakup, so I almost have to force myself to get horny, just to make sure the plumbing still gets something moving through the pipes occasionally.

My wife. Or, very rarely as time passes, old memories.

No bullshit.

Somewhere back in my thirties, I started getting tired of naked strangers on screens and paper. By the time we got married, the only other thing I was interested in was written erotica. While I still enjoy that, it isn’t for masturbation, just for the entertainment.

Now, I have a partner that’s a better match in every way than I could have ever hoped for. Best sex I’ve ever had, and she’s an incredible person the rest of the time too. So when it’s solo time, she’s the first thing that comes to mind.

But, every now and then, memories will stir, and that’s its own joy.

Porn? It’s fucking boring when it isn’t absurd, and it’s just depressing when it isn’t boring. The internet killed interesting porn.

I’m not saying it isn’t okay for other people, y’all do y’all. Just saying I’m pretty much done with that shit. Out of curiosity, I’ve even tried watching some older porn from before it went pure gonzo incest crap, and nothing. Even stuff that I very much liked back in my teens and twenties.

The AskLemmyNSFW “what dirty fun have you been up to” is really nice. Thanks, DazedAndConfused :)

I’ve been at a bit of a crossroads for this as well recently. I don’t really know that I have a go-to anymore. I agree that commercial videos are more of a “just to get off quickly” kind of situation. It always feels more like it takes longer to find a decent video than to actually cum.

If I’m using toys on myself(bi M) I prefer to watch hypnos, but that’s going to be a niche fetish thing that doesn’t work for most. If I’m not using toys, nothing compares to chat/rp with an actual partner.

I like erotica and it’s a much more satisfying experience than videos, but it’s so difficult to find something that I like that doesn’t have bad writing or something weird that’s a turn off. I’m also the type of person who can’t read the same thing twice so even if I find something it’s a one-time experience.