Possiblity #1: Something that worked through my insurance is Brightside, a service that is similar to Better Help but more guided by HIPPA and they take insurance. I had a crisis and was connected to a psychiatrist and therapist which worked super well for me to have it scheduled easily with my ADHD.

Possibility #2: Psychology Today’s therapist search also had a filter for things like insurance accepted, location, online only sessions, and religious belief and LGBT friendliness. It has also worked well for me to find therapists in the past.

I hope you find a way to talk to a therapist soon! It has helped me tremendously.

Those interested: Erika Lust is a fun site. It has more ethical porn that you don’t have to wade through weird crap for. Well worth it IMHO

Jackdaws?!

I’d vote for you for AI overlord

Knowing about “Temporary Internet Files” while my family was unaware made me feel like some sort of God of knowledge.

Oh and yeah I think I found porn there hooray!

I like to play DCS, a flight sim that is basically also a memory leaking machine because old spaghetti code so I use mine for sure.

With that said in other progeams/games it’s awesome to have so much overhead.

Not OC but the idea of making someone feel good makes me feel good. It’s like double the dopamine for me.

I could totally see being grossed out by it when I think about it logically. In fact it is gross when I think about it logically.

Not OC, but an important tenet of Buddhism as you probably know is known as the “First Noble Truth,” which states that “life is suffering.” The second through fourth noble truths basically tell us to cease attachment and desire and to live a life based on “right living” to avoid the problems caused by attachment and suffering.

I think this is where OC has an issue and I agree because sometimes being a human sucks and you need some escapes from that suffering. I consider myself a Buddhist as well, and while many Buddhists will talk of the “middle way” between living a conventional life and living a life that tries to get rid of all attachments, I find myself mostly leaning toward the conventional ways of alleviating suffering like playing video games and smoking weed.

Tldr: living like a monk isn’t easy (or something I want) but the Buddhist worldview helps me make sense of the world so I use it.

Similar issue with me! In our case both were HSAs and my employer changed companies. The first was awesome (and super helpful considering it was pre tax) and the second was horrible.

Same with HSA cards. I quit paying into mine because they wanted proof I got work done after using at a dentist.

Yeah, because dentists usually sell fun things. Fuckin morons

This is my take too. I gave Starfield a chance and I should have just gotten Baldurs Gate 3 that weekend instead.

What’s worse is how they dug down into qualifying why it sucked and their nightmare of a PR response. It fucking sucks though too. I want them to be good.

To add on: questioning and reflecting on your behaviors is the first step.

I’m definitely guilty of some of this too and being more mindful of it has been… a process… that isn’t easy but helps me a lot.

Remember when the Intenet made you optimistic? That’s why I think these posts gut me so much. Because it doesn’t do that anymore.

Anyway off to continue doom scrolling.

I use crumpled up paper at the bottom of mine. Oxygen and the chimney do wonders to get it started. Living in the suburbs I’m always grossed out when I walk by an outdoor BBQ and smell lighter fluid.

I also love Alton Brown and there are other videos that will teach you how to do a lot on a simple Weber style kettle grill.

Also: once you get other accessories like pans to hold and divide the charcoal for indirect heating then you’ll even open up more especially if you have a thermometer in the grill. While keeping it as low as a smoker isn’t easy it’s not impossible and I’ve done some great pork and slower cooked meats on mine.

Also with charcoal you can get creative and use basic smoking to elevate your game.

Also don’t light it with lighter fluid, a starter chimney is the way to go.

Pros for charcoal: you get to drink beer, play with fire, and grill and get credit for it.

Pros with propane: king of the hill and it’s easy to clean up

Thanks, dad!

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Good luck! I need to do that with running more.

Perhaps parking a site for traffic and then using the enshitified data to sell it?

It makes me sick how dumb it sounds.

I agree. Have a basket for keys and wallet and stuff you take out in one place. Have a spot for your vape or headphones in say a computer desk drawer. It’s the only thing that works for me and even then I struggle.

This is all awesome but any mind altering substance really needs to be used with a therapist when we are talking about average people in a large population. I’d also argue they both have benefits but their drawbacks are just too strong.

Weed is mostly non addictive but comes with other issues and isn’t perfect. Heart issues? Family history of schizophrenia? Either of those could be really bad. Is this a good argument for legalization and harm reduction? Yes. I’m not sure about widespread psychiatric use though. Perhaps more with a therapist but that therapist would be key - similar to the shamans of indigenous cultures.

I also totally agree with these not being long term. I love weed but the “420 smoke every dayyyyyyy” culture also ignores the need to work on yourself and do the work with a clear head. I think that internal (ideally drug free and sober) work gets you to the point of not only benefitting from these drugs but avoiding their abuse.