So I’ve basically been kinky my whole sexual life (from pre-pubescent), but have recently appreciated some almost vanilla sex with a partner.

This raised quite a few questions about how and why I appreciate things, and I’m thinking maybe I should lean into having a sexual mid-life crisis and rejigger and widen where and how I take pleasure. Can’t ever enjoy pleasure too much, right?

How did you go about discovering what you enjoy?

For anyone having put conscious effort into it, what did you do? What are some helpful resources you’d recommend?

  • Neeka@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Thank you for your comment, and the thought and care behind your words <3

    I’m not at all struggling with neither relationship nor my sexuality in it. And I agree completely with your comments on relationships and us becoming and enjoying different things in different relationships. It’s been an unexpected, but pleasant and unproblematic discovery of something that has never before caught my interest.

    My exploration is from a place of abundance, where I in my unexpected gain of perspective thought of all the other perspectives I could have blinded myself to, and thought it might be a good project to clear out old and stale ideas across the sexual board.