I’ve always thought dom sounds tricky to agree groundwork with. It might be fun but I doubt i would find someone who’s idea of it/taste in domination is exactly the same as mine.
Speaking on the master-servant stuff specifically, it seems tricky because what if one partner wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t? You could just “go back to normal,” but I bet having treated your partner like a servant would change the way you see them a little bit.
Since BDSM is related, I’ll mention that I don’t like a lot of the toys involved in BDSM at all, but bondage seems okay. But I also don’t think it’s necessary, and I want my partner to be enthusiastic enough about vanilla sex rather than needing to engage in these kinks. Hope that’s not considered an ignorant view of kinks.
I doubt i would find someone who’s idea of it/taste in domination is exactly the same as mine
You would be surprised by how vast and diverse the Dom-Sub world is. Again, I’ve never been really inside that world, but by the accounts I’ve heard from a lot of people I’ve known, there is almost anything to anyone. It is only a matter of knowing where to look.
what if one partner wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t?
That’s why it involves a lot of talking and consensual ennacting. You don’t simply go and say “hey I wanna be your dom” and discover things on the fly. You talk a lot with your partner or partners and clarify exactly what are you both looking for and how do you both like things. If both parts can’t agree in certain areas you can discuss it or simply choose to not go any deeper.
bet having treated your partner like a servant would change the way you see them a little bit.
Of course it would, you’re totally correct. But let’s be honest. Any kind of intimacy with another person changes the way you see them. You don’t see a girl the same way the first time you meet her and just after cumming inside her ass while you pull her hair and she calls you “daddy”.
but bondage seems okay
Then you could try Shibari. It’s a form of bondage with japanese influence that centers around erotic rope-play. Maybe that you could find enjoyable.
I want my partner to be enthusiastic enough about vanilla sex rather than needing to engage in these kinks. Hope that’s not considered an ignorant view of kinks.
No, that’s not ignorant at all. It’s a normal and fair concern. “What if we go too deep with the kinky stuff and we can’t enjoy normal sex again”. First of all, there is no vanilla or “normal” sex to begin with. Even missionary once a week is too kinky for some people. You should set some goals about trying stuff so you don’t feel you’re loosing yourself. What are you wanting to feel? to discover? what is something you consider “too much”? etc. Set goals and limits and that will help you to not get lost.
I’ve always thought dom sounds tricky to agree groundwork with. It might be fun but I doubt i would find someone who’s idea of it/taste in domination is exactly the same as mine.
Speaking on the master-servant stuff specifically, it seems tricky because what if one partner wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t? You could just “go back to normal,” but I bet having treated your partner like a servant would change the way you see them a little bit.
Since BDSM is related, I’ll mention that I don’t like a lot of the toys involved in BDSM at all, but bondage seems okay. But I also don’t think it’s necessary, and I want my partner to be enthusiastic enough about vanilla sex rather than needing to engage in these kinks. Hope that’s not considered an ignorant view of kinks.
You would be surprised by how vast and diverse the Dom-Sub world is. Again, I’ve never been really inside that world, but by the accounts I’ve heard from a lot of people I’ve known, there is almost anything to anyone. It is only a matter of knowing where to look.
That’s why it involves a lot of talking and consensual ennacting. You don’t simply go and say “hey I wanna be your dom” and discover things on the fly. You talk a lot with your partner or partners and clarify exactly what are you both looking for and how do you both like things. If both parts can’t agree in certain areas you can discuss it or simply choose to not go any deeper.
Of course it would, you’re totally correct. But let’s be honest. Any kind of intimacy with another person changes the way you see them. You don’t see a girl the same way the first time you meet her and just after cumming inside her ass while you pull her hair and she calls you “daddy”.
Then you could try Shibari. It’s a form of bondage with japanese influence that centers around erotic rope-play. Maybe that you could find enjoyable.
No, that’s not ignorant at all. It’s a normal and fair concern. “What if we go too deep with the kinky stuff and we can’t enjoy normal sex again”. First of all, there is no vanilla or “normal” sex to begin with. Even missionary once a week is too kinky for some people. You should set some goals about trying stuff so you don’t feel you’re loosing yourself. What are you wanting to feel? to discover? what is something you consider “too much”? etc. Set goals and limits and that will help you to not get lost.