Really like to watch some gangbang scenes, like all holes and hands filled, but we’re monogamous and sure of it so it’s not something we’d enjoy practicing
Same, but I think train running (1 man after another) is even better to watch
I mean honestly all pornography right. I don’t mean that, like, sex is something I love watching but doing, but pornographic sex is different to real sex, in that it is way more of a performance, which seems just unsustainable to keep up in reality.
I typicaly don’t even like watching it. It is a bunch of people slapping genitails awkwardly, who aren’t even allowed to enjoy themselves properly most of the time.
It is just a (literal) pain in the ass job.
I mean, unionize the sex industry, right?
Yeah, I a lot of it is just too obvious that they’re going through the motions like they’re checking off a list of positions or camera angles they want to include while the girl fakes enjoying it.
Domination stuff. Not BDSM per se, but some master-servant interactions. It looks hot from the outside to have that control of a person but talking to some people that like to participate in it, genuinely involves a lot of rules, scripts and energy to portray and enact.
I’ve always thought dom sounds tricky to agree groundwork with. It might be fun but I doubt i would find someone who’s idea of it/taste in domination is exactly the same as mine.
Speaking on the master-servant stuff specifically, it seems tricky because what if one partner wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t? You could just “go back to normal,” but I bet having treated your partner like a servant would change the way you see them a little bit.
Since BDSM is related, I’ll mention that I don’t like a lot of the toys involved in BDSM at all, but bondage seems okay. But I also don’t think it’s necessary, and I want my partner to be enthusiastic enough about vanilla sex rather than needing to engage in these kinks. Hope that’s not considered an ignorant view of kinks.
I doubt i would find someone who’s idea of it/taste in domination is exactly the same as mine
You would be surprised by how vast and diverse the Dom-Sub world is. Again, I’ve never been really inside that world, but by the accounts I’ve heard from a lot of people I’ve known, there is almost anything to anyone. It is only a matter of knowing where to look.
what if one partner wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t?
That’s why it involves a lot of talking and consensual ennacting. You don’t simply go and say “hey I wanna be your dom” and discover things on the fly. You talk a lot with your partner or partners and clarify exactly what are you both looking for and how do you both like things. If both parts can’t agree in certain areas you can discuss it or simply choose to not go any deeper.
bet having treated your partner like a servant would change the way you see them a little bit.
Of course it would, you’re totally correct. But let’s be honest. Any kind of intimacy with another person changes the way you see them. You don’t see a girl the same way the first time you meet her and just after cumming inside her ass while you pull her hair and she calls you “daddy”.
but bondage seems okay
Then you could try Shibari. It’s a form of bondage with japanese influence that centers around erotic rope-play. Maybe that you could find enjoyable.
I want my partner to be enthusiastic enough about vanilla sex rather than needing to engage in these kinks. Hope that’s not considered an ignorant view of kinks.
No, that’s not ignorant at all. It’s a normal and fair concern. “What if we go too deep with the kinky stuff and we can’t enjoy normal sex again”. First of all, there is no vanilla or “normal” sex to begin with. Even missionary once a week is too kinky for some people. You should set some goals about trying stuff so you don’t feel you’re loosing yourself. What are you wanting to feel? to discover? what is something you consider “too much”? etc. Set goals and limits and that will help you to not get lost.
PiV sex is kinda like that for me. It’s not unpleasant, but much hotter to watch.
Nothing.
I am autistically straightforward and consistent.
I don’t watch anything I wouldn’t enjoy doing.
Personally, I’ve been loving some of the erotica based around incest, but it gives me the ick when I hear about it in real life, and is obviously something I won’t engage in.
Some voice acted examples of this:
Same. Incest is hot as portrayed in some media but it’s a problematic situation (to say the least) in real life
