Obvious bait is obvious
There are a LOT of people who think this way, so being repulsed is the right response regardless.
Yep! It may be fake but it’s a fake representation of the kind of thing that happens a lot
This guy drives a cybertruck
I don’t believe these are real.
So the actual text in these posts is probably fake but I’m sad to say I’ve known two guys who act like this. Its not a ton, its not a majority of the guys I know, but like. Two is a lot for being THIS moronic. And they both seem like nice enough people at first. One of them is married to a pretty nice girl who just didn’t see it until it was too late. RIP.
That said, posting this kind of stuff kinda irks me since it can end up making that reality seem more imaginary than it really is. Plus, people like me who have had that experience in real life don’t need internet posts to teach them that this is the way it is, and people who haven’t had that experience in real life probably aren’t going to update their perception of reality based on posts like this. So these posts still kinda end up useless despite being fairly representative of reality.
They kind of inflame opinion. That can be an end in itself.
I’ve dated many men like this. Insecurity can destroy anyone.
God I hope not. Our society is fucked if it is.
Have you seen how bad the manosphere shit has gotten? This is pretty stock standard thoughts for 30% (although sometimes it feels like 90) of men. Young men are especially falling into this
Yeah, my brother in-law is around 25 or so. I could totally see him doing this and then bitching about how he can’t keep a girlfriend. Some of the vile filth I’ve heard from his mouth is shockingly stupid.
Dudes have been like this for decades.
I mean I can’t deny that there’s a lot of absolute morons roaming the streets, but I’m also questioning the veracity of these screenshots.
Well it’s nice that he got his red flag out early.
I think so much posted online isn’t real as such and more fabricated and what I classify as ‘engagement bait’
TikTok is full of it and seems to have got worse now AI slop machine can churn it out en-mass.
That’s what you get for dating the ghost of Charlie Kirk.
First 2 sentenses are reasonable. But then… You get to everything else, and it just falls off a cliff. Assuming this is real, of course.
The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit.
Though IMO someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it. It’s more of a “I wish I was in your place without stating any intention to usurp it” than a “you don’t deserve to be in that place and must be there because things outside of your intent or control got you there”. It’s more non-threatening flattery towards your partner (as opposed to just flirting with her) than anything else and I’d consider taking offense at someone saying that to be a red flag even before he went off the deep end.
It predicts the fragile ego stuff that follows rather than contrasts IMO.
The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit
Yeah, that’s what I meant. Like, expressing yourself to someone you’re dating, like “This made me uncomfortable,” generally should be ok. This proved to be the exception.
someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it
Well, what if the bartender was being a piece of shit, say someone who has cerebral palsy, saying they’re even lucky to be with someone… Would you still say that person is full of themselves? I think telling anyone they’re “lucky” to be with someone, from an outside perspective, is intentionally demeaning to one of the two people. Now, if someone in a relationship says they feel lucky to have found someone, that’s different. But clearly, it’s open to interpretation. And changes in context.
Little personal story to add, I dated a girl a while back, and ALL her friends and co-workers would say how lucky she was and how good I was for her. We all knew why, she was overweight and I wasn’t. They didn’t even just hint and maybe I read that wrong, they were BLUNT about it. I was doing home cooking for us instead of doing fast food. I worked out, did 5k races, I was in great shape. And I was exposing her to that life and she was noticeably losing weight. But the look on her face when people said “she was lucky”, was defeat.
Yeah, I guess it depends on the context. I’ve just always interpreted it as being more about how great the other person is instead of saying anything about the other person. Like that luck could be lucky the timing worked out that you were both available when you started seeing each other. But I can see tones that make it all about the other person instead, deserved or not. So whether that line is a red flag or not does depend on context.
Nothing says “I’m going to kill my whole family when I inevitably lose my job for being an insufferable dick” like this post.
The problem with stuff like this is that everyone wants different things. This lady was great, did what she ought to. But this guy wasn’t looking for an absolute catch, he was looking for an ego boost with low effort.
His first issue screams insecurity in his appearance, and that’s fair, a lot of people have that issue. But rather than telling his date not to dress nicely, he could be putting effort into his appearance. A nice haircut and some decent quality, well fitting clothes that complement his body could go so fucking far.
The money issue though, that requires decoupling from the mindset of his role being to provide. It may be difficult, especially if he has little understanding of what he actually provides in a relationship (or what he could provide) beyond money, but it’s valuable mental work to do. People don’t stay in love with you because you pay the bills, they do it because they enjoy your company and feel you’re working together through life.
All this is of course moot by him claiming she’s the lucky one, at which point, yeah fucking yikes dude
What an insecure little insect…
I just threw up a little in my mouth.
I hate insecure sex negative guys so fucking much.
Is that also a form of negging? Seems to go in that direction anyway.
She needs to remember she’s the lucky one…? And her paying her half is constructed to be a negative?
I took it as a half assed neg for sure
feels a bit like ragebait tbh
