Could have been a text every time

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      9 months ago

      Fr. Do people forget that they have autonomy in their experiences? You can still decline the call even if you aren’t actively engaged; nobody is automatically entitled to your free time.

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      9 months ago

      Until you get complaints that you are not communicating effectively from management and should embrace random fucking calls that could be 2 small paragraphs of text

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        9 months ago

        From management? If that’s the case I hope you’re clarifying to them that work conversations are legally work, so you will be expect to be paid fully for any hours clocked on the phone outside normal scheduled hours.

        Of course if you’re talking about fielding calls while on the clock… well yeah you’re probably gonna have to answer those.

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        Has that actually happened to you? I would quit tbh but I am also a priviliged af software dev

        Edit: also thats not a problem for non-work related ppl

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    “A bit, but I can text. What’s up?”

    I’ve learned to reply like that every time and it works. It convinces them to text me and if I see it’s important, I say something like “give me a few minutes and I’ll call”.

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    9 months ago

    Pro Tip: when someone asks you an open question like this, always reply with “why’s that?” It forces them to either tell you what they want or bail on it, either way you get time to come up with something to get out of it.

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      I feel like just responding with a “what’s up?” forces that too, without outwardly saying “…before I answer: why?” Then if they do call and you don’t want to talk, you can ignore it or respond with a rejected call text saying, “can’t talk, what did you need?”

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        9 months ago

        Yeah anything that throws it back on them is what you need, “why’s that?” is my go-to, just never give a definitive answer to their first question, it’s always a trap.

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      9 months ago

      As much as we all know talking is the fastest way to convey information, some people (myself included) don’t like talking on the phone. It’s not malicious or anything we’d just rather text.

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      9 months ago

      Phones are far worse for hearing clearly than they were pre-cell phone era. People fail miserably to speak into the mic and often use speakerphone to make it even more hellish.

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    It depends what it is. There are some things better reserved for a call, where tone of speech can be heard.

    I’m glad to not have quite this level of social anxiety, sounds really not fun for the suffer :(

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    I can’t express how much I hate phone call, if you want to talk we can talk in person if it too far away we can send messages