Like autistic people get to be autistic. That’s a word, and it has meaning. Someone can be autistic because it’s a type of person (spectrumy type). In my opinion, ADHD sucks as an identifying term. It’s 3 letters, one repeated. It means nothing as it is spelled and can’t be owned as an identity because they’re letters, not a word. “I’m adhudd.” The initials include “disorder” in it. That sucks. Autistic people don’t go around saying, “Hi, I’m austically disordered,” cause that’s not accepting. Is there a term that is smooth and not judgmental for ADHD? Maybe we can take Aspergers since it got dropped, but add the ‘d’ to get “Adspergers”. Nah, that’s stupid af. What about multibrained? I feel multibrained because I act like I’ve got multiple brains running in my head doing their own thing all at the same time, and I bounce around them based on who knows what.

What? Oh, yes…I’ll have the spaghetti bolog-knees. Do you guys have red pepper…crushed red pepper? Yeah, thanks. Cool. I like your name tag. Is that really your name? Samsquatch?..oh! It’s Samuel, but you changed it to Samsquatch! I love Trailer Park Boys. Fuck off, Leahy! Yeah. Sorry. I got excited.

Okay. So…um, is there a descriptive word for ADHD that isn’t ADHD?

  • themeatbridge@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I gave a joke answer, but I also have heard the term “kaleidoscope” to describe the shifting mental state, and I liked it. Maybe “kalaidoment”?

    • orize@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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      1 month ago

      I disagree with providing clues about certain conditions. Doing so can lead to misinterpretation, as people’s perceptions vary widely. While it’s inevitable, it’s possible to live in a way that minimizes the impact of these perceptions, and I would advise everyone to do so.

      ADHD, although it shares similarities among individuals with this neurodivergence, manifests uniquely in each person.

      ADHD is distinct from autism, particularly in how individuals with ADHD manage conversations.

      ADHD is also different from intellectual disabilities.

      Despite these differences, all these conditions fall under the umbrella term “neurodivergent.” However, I prefer not to use this term, as it can lead to overthinking and reliance on preconceived notions. I just tell people I have ADD on paper and if they want to understand it/me better, they will ask. Or I will provide them the info I seen they are missing. Lol!

    • Orize@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 months ago

      That doesn’t fit well, because a person with adhd doesn’t want to be assumed has autism. It would be an unnecessary hurdle for the interpreter to get past lol

    • theneverfox@pawb.socialEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Agreed. It’s like they start looking for confirmation, so they start expecting and noticing every little mistake. Or they don’t see it, and give you unsolicited speeches about how they struggle to focus to and you just need discipline… In fact, you should stop taking your meds

      I just tell people without telling people. “I can’t sit still for too long, I have to walk”, “the music/videos and stim toys help me focus”, “my thought process is weird, I know that sounds unrelated but it makes sense to me”, “I know you’re writing up a list, I need to take notes to process what you’re saying and if I don’t doodle I can’t pay attention to this boring ass meeting”

      If you take on the label, they don’t see you as managing your symptoms, they look for the cracks. If you explain your compensation strategies and areas of difficulty, they usually are pretty supportive and will even respect the level of thought you put into it

      • 𝕮𝕬𝕭𝕭𝕬𝕲𝕰@feddit.ukEnglish
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        2 months ago

        Conversely I’ve met people who were diagnosed as adults and who then blame everything they do on their ADHD - “you know, now everything makes sense about me!”.

        Ditto with Autism, to be fair - you don’t get to excuse being an arsehole just because you’re not neurotypical, Dave.

      • recklessengagement@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 months ago

        “They look for the cracks” is an excellent way to put it.

        I don’t even tell friends, except those who are very close. Too often, it changes the way people treat me.

    • DankOfAmerica@reddthat.comOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I feeeeeel…I ☝FEELLLLLL☝ (pls don’t get mad at me) like when I tell people ahead of time of my neurodivergence, they take it as me coming up with an excuse to be rude in the future.

    • DankOfAmerica@reddthat.comOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I’m like 95-100% filtered at first to avoid upsetting anyone. Very rarely, I’ll make it to 0% unfiltered with only the most accepting and trustworthy people.

  • Rajtinka@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I generally refer to myself as ASD (also has disorder in it) to describe my autistic traits and ADD for my ADHD. Sometimes I use Neuro divergent or ND if I’m feeling lazy.