• A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    If you don’t want people spreading your images, wanking to your images, making crude comment about your images, oogling your images, etc etc. And I don’t mean just nudes, I mean any picture you post…

    Then don’t post them online.

    because once they hit the internet, in any capacity, you’ve lost all control of them, forever. They will still be there to be discovered when you are lying in a nursing home at 104 years old, Your descendants so far removed that they dont even know your name will still be at risk of stumbling upon them. People on the other side of the planet might use it in advertising or virtual sex dolls without you ever knowing.

    You might not like it, you might not want it, you might not consent to it, but its still going to happen.

    And if you want it to not happen, don’t post things online. Because not posting is the only control you’ll ever be able to exert over them.

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      3 months ago

      Whatever you say, really don’t care. I don’t need some rando to tell me shit I already know.

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        3 months ago

        “I don’t care what some rando has to say, now let me go back to posting on the site full of randos talking to eachother. BUT THEY BETTER NOT REPLY TO ME!”

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          Sorry, I should have said I don’t care to be mansplained about basic shit about how posting things on the internet works. You guys are really fucking obnoxious, it’s telling how badly my comment about consent set you all off.

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            3 months ago

            Yes. your comment set me off so much that I made a calm, rational response about the dangers of posting online and the lack of control you have over it.

            God, someone stop me. Won’t someone think of the children?

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              3 months ago

              You regurgitated what a million other jerk ass men already said. I get it. Things on the internet are there forever, it’s all the women’s fault for posting revealing pics, I mean they were asking for it with the way they were dressed, huh?

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                3 months ago

                Yes yes.

                Everyone is the enemy, even if they’ve no hate or hostility, and have provided nothing but calm and rational discourse… you won’t let that stop you from imagining what they said, so you can be upset about that instead.

                Because you must justify being an obnoxious ass about everything, and to everyone, to try and artificially elevate respectful discourse into screaming and skreeeeee-ing, because its the only way you can sustain your perpetual victim complex to justify yourself. Its why you do abhorrent shit like equate basic internet safety that an alarming majority of people don’t know or realize in this day and age to rape. Because using rape in this way is a great way to provoke all sorts of responses that you can self-victimize yourself with, over and over again, to wallow in your euphoria of imagined persecution.

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                  3 months ago

                  How many times do I have to tell you I don’t care about your regurgitated “internet safety” lecture. I already knew and yet you decided to type a whole fucking condescending essay. So, as respectfully and calmly as possible, fuck off.

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                    3 months ago

                    Seem to care an awful lot, since you are still here being a pissy asshole.

                    Just cant resist provoking hostility to feed that persecution complex, can you.

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            3 months ago

            I’ve literally been sexually assaulted and you set me off too. Maybe you’re just a fucking dumbass

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              Well, as someone who’s been through it, I’d really hope you of all people would understand the fucking importance of consent.

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                I also understand consequences for actions. If it was a private insta page, that’s one thing, and I don’t necessarily support these men’s actions nor would I take them myself, insofar as the thirsty comments, but if I posted a picture of myself that was purposefully sexy publicly, those are the comments I have to be prepared to get. I really don’t think your argument holds weight, as the consent is done when they post the image publicly to a place with public comments. That was the choice they made. I think that if somebody’s pictures are leaked or something, that’s totally different, but just insofar as public forums… yeah no

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                  So does a woman walking in public wearing revealing clothes deserve to be catcalled? Because that’s basically what you’re arguing. It’s literally victim blaming, why can’t men simply be respectful? Why are women made to police themselves?

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                    3 months ago

                    Are we really equivocating catcalling, in which a woman has immediate and relevant fears for her physical safety, and some gross comments online?

                    Like when somebody tells me they’re gonna rape me in a video game lobby, I don’t appreciate their language but I’m not legitimately fearful.

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                3 months ago

                I’d also really think somebody that cares about people wouldn’t throw somebody’s trauma in their face, fwiw

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                    3 months ago

                    Wasn’t a trump card. Was intended to show you just how ridiculous your line of argumentation was. If I said I’m right because I’ve been sexually assaulted, that would be different.

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                    29 days ago

                    Excuse me? I know it may be rude to go in one of your comments, but I don’t know any other way of contacting you. I just wanted to know if you are fine, because based on your other things I think you suffered too much. I hope wherever you are, things might be okay. You seem like a strong person, and a great fighter. Thank you for everything.