• degen@midwest.social
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    11 months ago

    Brb, just making sure The Picard Maneuver isn’t in the student directory before I go to school tomorrow

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    It’s like this weirdly stifled cry for help, because they feel the need to be seen as hard while also REALLY wanting people to know that they’ve been through a LOT and a normal person would be hurting BAD but not them because they’re so TOUGH but please please also recognize how hard just existing is for them.

    It’s a hedged cry for help.

    Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

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      Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

      Easier said than done for some

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        And getting the help is a lot, a lot easier said than done.

        ‘Get over it. (Slur)’ is how the majority of the Western world would react to a man reaching out to help.

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      Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

      And watch the people who said they cared suddenly get real scarce.

      I wish it wasn’t that way, and I’m happy it’s no longer that way for me. But there are people around you right now who know of they speak up, loved ones and friends will tell them “it’s no big deal” or “It’s all in your head” or my favorite, “man up”.

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      Like anything else, you have to practice to be able to ask for help. This might be the early stages of that.

      It is lame, it is attention seeking. All attention seeking is a cry for help, whether one knows it or not.

      I have found that the things I go out of my way to criticize are the things that hit closest to home, or that I might be afraid of being.

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    As a father of 4 boys, I find it sad that young men want a world on fire. There are a lot of good male role model out there, let’s promote them, seems that would be more conducive.

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          This was a half joke, the lack of male role model being solved by transitioning is kinda incidental, though it may have played a role because I didn’t identify with what I observed as the “male role”

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            It’s an interesting idea. Personally, I like to explore what part of my behavior is reinforced gender performance and which part feels more like me.

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      As someone who had a father of 4 - just tell them people are people. No one is above reproach. They all make mistakes, and a lot of them try to do as much good as they can. They are going to learn that sooner, or later.

      There’s no worst thing that finding out your hero is a shit heel. But if you never had a role model - you can’t get that disappointment.

      You just try your best to be your best. Because if everyone did that - the world would be a better place.

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        That’s how I’ve always operated. Can’t be let down if you don’t look up in the first place. I’m doing pretty well right now without having had a role model (I’ve had mentors but I feel there’s a difference), but I’ll never lie and say the road I’ve taken has been free of potholes and detours.

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      I’m writing this little fictional world for a set of stories, and had the idea to change over one of my “strong female role model explorer” characters to a guy; while keeping a number of less masculine traits. I just felt like it’s important for people to have more fictional characters in their demographic they want to look up to and imitate.

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      There’s a hitler youth knife in there that might catch their eye if they’re pushed too far, when that tshirt with the skeleton biker holding the ace of spades in one hand and flipping the bird with the other isn’t enough

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    Criminals usually have history from early adulthood or even earlier and they aren’t that smart. When a good man really snaps and goes on a “mission”, he’s really hard to catch.

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      I bring this up anytime someone’s opposed to common sense anti-violence laws, by reason of “That’s not hard to circumvent, criminals just won’t do this dumb thing”.

      Criminals are often dumb. If they were smart, they’d quite often find ways to get ahead legally, or at the very least in ways that don’t disturb others’ peace of living.

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        Yes. They are disappointed self proclaimed heros of the internet who think posting Joker would bring that anarchist revolution one step closer, like if would make things any bettet.

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    The word cringe is thrown about too much, but unironically posting anything with a picture of Joker is the definition of cringe.

    Edit: I am surprised how controversial this is, but I stand by it 🫡